Benched at 8
found out that at the pizza party (to which I was not invited) there
was great controversy, basically because of Isaac. The parents were
angry because at the last game, the "championship" game, all the kids
were allowed the chance to play (not just the best players). Apparently,
parents felt the "championship" game was not serious enough - not real
basketball. The coach actually sent out an email apologizing for it.
thing is, that last game of the season was Isaac's best game. It was
also the first time I have seen him actually try to shoot. Yes, he shot
at our team's basket. But he didn't make the shot anyway, so does it
really matter? I was proud but they were probably talking about that at
the pizza party too.
I know some of this may be my own
insecurity. I played sports my whole life but I was never very good. And
by 'never very good', I mean I sucked. At most of them anyway. If there
were a Hall of Fame for benches, the imprint of my ass would be in it.
But I still played a lot of sports. And more importantly, I was a great
team-mate and an enthusiastic supporter. And I passed the ball a lot.
is the other thing. Some of my kids did not develop typically. They
walked late, had an unusual gait and do not have the coordination of
other children. I think if the other parents understood that, they might
be more sympathetic than they are. But maybe not. I don't know. All my
kids play sports - all of them. And they play sports even if they suck.
They play sports because I believe a person's body and mind are
connected. I also believe that sports are part of growing up as a person
and living honorably and fully in the world with other people.
all our kids are going to make varsity. But these kids are K through
2nd Graders. In a few years, there will not be a chance for recreational
basketball, it will all be varsity. Btw, this wasn't even a school
league, it was just a private
group. You pay $180, practice nine times and then have a "championship"
game against the other half of the private team at the end. So why are
we pushing the kids now? Why are people angry the championship game
wasn't a "real" game? Is the goal to teach children how to play a real
basketball game? Or is the goal to teach children basketball skills, how
to be great team-mates and how to be enthusiastic supporters?
Tiger parents - I was once one of you. All these children are precious. Let's dial it back a bit.
Bad Swim Meet
Honey, please don't be so sad. Somebody has to come in last and those
kids were really fast. Anyway, we just need a new strategy. You don't
have to swim fast. You just have to swim smarter.
Next time, when you are up on the block, look to your left and look to your right. Call out "I can't hold my pee" loud enough for them to hear. They'll back off.
"Mommy, bad news. Both Frisbees are in the tree in the back yard. And
also the tennis racquet and one of the hockey sticks is up there. The
other hockey stick, the baseball bat and two soccer balls are over the
fence in the neighbor's back yard."
"I understand how
the Frisbees in the tree, but how did all those other things get up
there?" "Oh, never mind. Don't answer that."
First Swim Meet
Julian, this will be your first real swim meet. I know there is a lot of
pressure on you. I tried to protect you from this for a long time. If
you win, I want you to accept victory with grace and compassion. If some
other kid beats you, you should get out of the pool and punch him.
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